I haven’t blogged in a while. It has been hard to write. But today I was found some inspiration in porcelain cups.
I received the MOST beautiful gifts from Japan. They are the most beautiful and definitely most precious gifts because it was beyond thoughtful that someone would think that much of me. How is it that something from half way across the world would bring much reflection on our lives.
These porcelain cups are made in Japan, but they reminded me of Mulan the instant I saw them. For those that don’t know, Mulan is a Disney movie about a Chinese girl that fails to meet cultural expectations and impersonates as a man to serve in the Chinese army.
She sings the words “look at me I will never pass for a perfect…” and goes on to list all the areas in life she feels she falls short. I can imagine that we are all singing those words that sound so familiar. I say this because we are always trying to be perfect in some aspect without even noticing. Trying to have the perfect body, say all the perfect things, have the perfect hair, the perfect look, have the perfect house/kids/family/job, etc etc. Attempting perfection is exhausting because we are constantly trying to be someone we are not to gain some sort of approval. We’re living to meet cultural expectations of what society says we should be like or what we should look like, how to dress, how to act, etc. Perfection is hard to keep up with.
I was talking to a friend just yesterday and he was telling me about some property he was checking out. On the outside it was perfect he said, it was in the heart of the town, had great curb appeal, the location was great, everything was updated and it was a reasonable price, but come to find out there were mice running through the interior of the walls. Inspection failed. Things can appear perfect on the outside and still remain messy on the inside. Some things can appear normal or ugly by cultural standards and expectations on the outside and be beyond beautiful on the inside. No matter how much we cover it up, imperfections will seep through. And that is because no one can maintain a perfect image.
The cups represent an unbreakable bond. I do not have to worry about impersonating someone or something that I’m not for those that are important to me. It’s freeing of a burden we are not meant to carry. I am free to be who I am, flaws and all for the friend that sees me as more valuable than one can imagine. I am far from perfect and make mistakes, I fall short everyday, but I don’t have to sing those words. My friend sees me for who I am and loves me anyway and calls beautiful inside and out. We can embrace each other’s imperfections, there is beautiful in that. See what perfect gift I have been given, not just the cups from Japan but for my wonderful friend.